Most new moms will say they experienced some loss of identity even as they gained a new identity as a mother. Particularly stay-at-home moms who sometimes loathe the question, "What do you do?", feel a loss of their former selves.
To begin to resolve any conflicts of identity, look back. Remember who you were before becoming a mother or a wife. What were your gifts? Your ambitions? Your hobbies? Your dreams? Give yourself some time to remember.
Now, think about how those things can contribute to your mothering? God made you a special kind of person, and he also made you a special kind of mother. Are you a feisty, competitive gal or are you a mellow, laid-back lady? Are you gifted in visual arts or music? Are you a gifted athlete? Are you a natural motivator or a natural encourager?
God has not asked you to abandon your identity in motherhood. He wants you to use your identity as a child of God to serve your family and your children.
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